Feminism (Almost) Ruined My Life

The title of this video isn’t hyperbole, as a child of a baby boomer I struggle with whether or not my mom’s feminism (and my own) almost ruined my life.

This is my journey as a reformed feminist. I’ve never been denied a promotion because of my gender, I’ve been unhappy working long hours doing things I didn’t want to do, I’ve put off having children until now I worry that it’s too late, and I’ve lost some important professional connections because of my vocal evolution from feminism to egalitarianism.

But over the last 50-60 years we’ve seen feminism morph into modern misandry that’s scary, exclusionary and divisive. And what’s worse: we’re now seeing it start to have violent consequences as men across the world, many of them without a father figure in the home, are committing unspeakable acts of violence.

LoveA week ago today, I married the love of my life, and my mom was there to support me. But deep down, I know she doesn’t. Because despite hers, and my own, best efforts to keep me a childless, miserable workaholic I’m in the best place of my life right now and it’s not at all what she planned for me or what I thought I wanted for myself. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been: mentally, physically and spiritually healthy and it’s all centered around my role as a homemaker and yoga teacher while trying to start a family. And I honestly think that the way I live my life disappoints her.

So my feelings about feminism are complex and conflicted, because I see women around the world who need my voice as a free, American citizen. But I also see how this false narrative of inequality can destroy the lives of women my age in the U.S. and other western civilizations who struggle with identitarianism and the championing of victimhood.

I’m not saying that one way is better than the other, but women who choose more traditional roles shouldn’t be looked down on for that. Choosing to stay home and manage your household, raise children, support your spouse, those are tough choices to make and they’re incredibly rewarding. Anyone who devotes their lives to their families should be celebrated, not denigrated.

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  1. I don’t think feminism mandates that one make the choice to be childless or be a workaholic. I’ve known many feminists who stayed at home for all or part of the child raising years. Of course not everyone has the economic freedom to stay at home.


    • I agree that it’s not a mandate, and a real believer in the true definition of feminism as it relates to equality of the sexes would say the same thing. I’m glad that you and your friends haven’t experienced this in your lives. Unfortunately the modern feminist movement is being taken over by bigots– whether it’s hatred for men, hatred for feminine women who choose to embrace traditional gender roles, hatred for Jews for some reason if you’re talking about the Women’s March, hatred for Christians or anyone else who doesn’t completely support LGBT lifestyles, hatred for anyone who fights for the rights of unborn women, I could go on but these are all “others” now many people that call themselves feminists and it’s turning a lot of others away from that label.


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